It really never is. As someone who spends their life fighting off anxious thoughts, it’s sometimes hard to remember this. My mind is contsantly firing what ifs at me (apparently I catastrophise) so sometimes it’s important for me to remind myself: I’m probably over reacting, it’s never half as bad as I think it’s going to be.
Seriously though, whether it’s worrying about going back to work after time off, or an important meeting coming up, or obsessing over a reaction that hasn’t even happened yet – it’s never as bad as you think it’ll be.
It was my dad that first said this to me. After having my appendix out last year and after almost a month off work, I was dreading going back. He told me this over a pint (of course) and he was right (of course). It wasn’t half as bad as I thought it would be – as much as we like to think so sometimes, most of the time we’re not the glue holding the business together. They managed without me, and even though the logical part of my brain (it does exist) knew that this would be the case, the illogical, irrational part of my brain (the part that often takes over) had me in a right old panic.
It’s stuck with me, this phrase, because my experience tells me it’s true. But we all need a reminder sometimes and this always helps me along a little.
What’s your mantra, your little phrase that brings you back down to earth?
Until next time,